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"Society dictates how we look": Tyumen plastic surgeon on beauty standards and the fight against the inevitable
People in white coats. We are used to thinking that doctors are not afraid of anything, rarely make mistakes and always know exactly what to do in any situation. In fact, each of them is, first of all, a person with their own fears, triumphs and failures, moments of joy and grief.
Have you ever thought about changing your appearance? Maybe your nose, lips, cheekbones, breast size? Did you know that beauty has certain standards? I'll tell you about it now. When I was studying to be a plastic surgeon, textbooks and notebooks were full of various diagrams and tables depicting ideal proportions of the face and body.
For example, the distance from the skull to the chin is one tenth of the total height of a person. The face is divided into three parts of equal height. Between our eyes there is another similar eye. Your doctor will be able to immediately determine whether your nose is perfect or needs correction. There is no limit to perfection, but there is one "but". We are all different and we are all individuals.
How much society dictates to us! It tells us where to live, what to drive, what to watch, what to eat, what to wear and how to look. A 90-60-90 figure, thick hair, plump lips, a toned body, at least a 3rd size bust – this is all that we have accepted as ideal. Now it is so difficult for us to achieve them. And many beauty experts say: “We will make you better.” “We will make you more beautiful and happier.”
They are also said to have difficulties because of old age. What is old age? Old age is the period of a person's life following maturity. Aging is inevitable, and aging is a normal phenomenon. So why do we fight the inevitable? Why do we fight nature and ourselves?
Why don't we accept ourselves this way? When I was a teenager, I noticed that I had a wide nose. It was wide and duck-like, just like my mother used to say. I wanted to fix it for a long time. And then I became a mother myself. And life loves to throw surprises. My daughter is nothing like me, except for one thing: my nose.
And for me, my daughter is not the best, she is not the best, she is incomparable. Everything, every millimeter. And her nose is so beautiful that I cannot deprive her of confidence in her nose. What will she think about her appearance if I change my nose?
My wide nose, my thin blond hair, my freckles, my wrinkles, my youthful tattoos – none of these things make me any worse or any better. They make me who I am today. And these things certainly don’t affect my level of happiness.
One late evening, the phone rang. A friend of ours called to tell us that his girlfriend, my friend, had been in a serious accident. This leads to intensive care, severe head injuries, facial wounds, surgery and a long rehabilitation. Now she is alive, healthy and active, but the traces of this accident remain on her face forever in the form of scars. And she needed a lot of support from society to accept her new self. Accept and love yourself.
I am a plastic surgeon. Beauty is not important. And happiness does not depend on imperfection. Because happiness is inside everyone. And what seems like imperfection is actually just a feature. Your personal story.
I am also the founder of a gentle medicine clinic where I hope to inspire women to pay close attention to their health and appearance. We believe that it is your responsibility to be in harmony with your life and love for yourself. As many marketers and salespeople know, this is illogical. It is illogical and provocative. I agree. It is much easier to press on pain and imperfection. It is easier and cheaper.